Motivate Yourself with the “Just For Today” Technique

Having big goals for ourselves is important. Unless we think big, we’re never going to develop the skills and the personal brand needed to earn the money we want.

The problem is that big goals can often be overwhelming – whether it’s changing a behavior, learning a new skill, earning more money on the side, or starting a new career. It’s easy to get bogged down by the number of obstacles you face along the way.

Several years ago, I found myself getting into meaningless fights with my friends, family, and girlfriend. These fights wasted a lot of time and energy and strained my relationship with my loved ones.

I knew that it was a serious problem but I didn’t know how to change. I felt pretty depressed and went to talk to a close friend about how to deal with the issue.

“It’s simple Vik,” he said. “The problem is that you’re thinking too big right now and it’s getting you down. The best way to fight this is to take small steps. Here’s an experiment you should try – it’s called the “Just For Today” technique. Focus on one thing you’d like to do differently just for today that will help you change your behavior. This success will give you the boost in confidence you need to keep working towards your goals.”

This made sense to me. I decided that one of the problems was that I interrupted other people too much. So just for today, I was not going to interrupt anyone for any reason. Thinking about it as a one-day commitment made it seem a lot more manageable.

That night I started getting into an argument with my girlfriend. I felt the urge to interrupt her but fought it. Remember, I told myself, it’s just an experiment. It’s just for today. This “knowledge” reinforced my self-control and gave her an opportunity to finish her thoughts. Amazingly, we resolved our disagreement without much of a fight.

The next day I woke up thinking my one-day experiment was over. But then I thought, wait a minute – why can’t I just do it today as well? After all, it prevented a major fight yesterday, so let me do it again. As the days and months went by, I interrupted less and less and got into fewer and fewer silly fights. I still get overheated once in awhile, but the “just for today” experiment has really helped me move in the right direction.

Here are a few things you might like to do, just for today (courtesy of Marelisa at The Abundance Blog)

  • Just for today, I will pause when someone does something that upsets me, take a breath, and take a moment to decide how to best respond.
  • Just for today, I will not blame anyone else for my problems.
  • Just for today, I will not make excuses.
  • Just for today, I will take responsibility for everything that happens to me.
  • Just for today, I will take some action that will move me closer to my dreams.
  • Just for today, I will do something that scares me.
  • Just for today, I will not raise my voice at anyone.
  • Just for today, I will look for ways to compliment others.
  • Just for today, I will be less critical and more tolerant of other people.
  • Just for today, I will refrain from labeling things as “good” or “bad”.
  • Just for today, I will exercise for half an hour.
  • Just for today, I will not put any junk in my body.
  • Just for today, I will be patient.
  • Just for today, I’ll try not to change anyone.
  • Just for today, I will belittle no one.
  • Just for today, I will stop trying to control everyone and everything.

What would you like to do, just for today? Please share in the comments section

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